Over the years, the concept of love has been spun, twisted, leaned, and pruned into nothing more than a base emotion. The shame of this is that it leaves the human as nothing more than an animal responding to our emotions and base instincts, and ignoring our heads. A bi-product of this multi-year incremental destruction of our beings is the withering away of the man, and as a result the woman, the family, and ultimately society as a whole.
So, boys….grow up, show some love and BE A MAN!
Every few years, the media tells us new ideas about what a man should be. For a while there was “sensitive new age guy.” Then there was “metrosexual” and advice that men need to develop their feminine side.
I’ve heard married men advise younger men that the key to a happy marriage is: “Yes, dear.” [Nearly every television commercial] ridicule men, [and the actual programming are not much better.]
On television, we’ve gone from Father Knows Best, where the father was a wise caring man who could do no wrong, to Homer Simpson, a buffoon who can do nothing right. Does Homer actually influence what people think a man should be? In a recent survey in Canada by the research firm Ipsos-Reid, more than 25 percent of fathers aged 18 to 34 identify with Homer Simpson when they’re talking to their kids about a difficult subject, and almost 20 percent of adult children in the same age range associate their own father with Homer.
With so many confusing ideas, …wisdom on what a man should be in a relationship [has become increasingly necessary]. … [It is not surprising then that some of the best advice regarding what a man should be comes from Genesis] and Adam — the first man in the world who was in a relationship. Adam was alone. He wanted a wife. He asked God for a wife and God created Eve to be an “ezer k’negdo” — a helper opposing him or a helper against him (Genesis, 2:18).
A helper against him? What in the world does that mean? Simply, it means that …If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. If he doesn’t, she will be against him.
…
My search led me to discover a lot of timeless wisdom that for generations fathers taught their sons — wisdom that is so relevant today. Today’s absent father, either from long hours of work or divorce, means many boys grow up without a strong male role model.
Here are five … lessons… on what a man in a relationship should be:
Lesson #1: Take responsibility
… Don’t do things you know are wrong and then blame others. If you make a mistake, take responsibility for your actions. One of the meanings of the word “husband” is someone who skillfully manages his household. A manager takes responsibility. …A man has to look at himself and see how he can change his own actions to properly handle similar situations.
Lesson #2: Show leadership
If a man wants to be seen as worthy and have a good relationship with a woman, he has to show leadership. When he sees a situation that needs to be dealt with, he should step forward and handle it. People admire those who step forward to handle difficult situations. We don’t admire those who stand back and wait for others to solve the problem.
Some men avoid taking the lead because they don’t want to be criticized. They think they’re playing it safe. A man should say, “I’ll handle it,” and take the initiative to find solutions. If he’s not sure what the solution is, do what other leaders do — consult the many sources of information available.
Lesson #3: Make decisions
One of the meanings of the word “manly” is being decisive. A man needs to make decisions and take responsibility for the outcome. If he’s reluctant to make decisions, she may resent him. Part of making decisions is understanding the other person’s views and being flexible. She doesn’t want someone controlling her, but she also doesn’t want someone who leaves every decision to her. A man who is afraid of making a wrong decision should ask himself: Who should make decisions? — someone who isn’t afraid of making mistakes.
Lesson #4: Be strong
Who is strong? He who can control his passions (Ethics of the Fathers, 4:1). Someone who can control his anger is better than a physically strong man who can conquer a city. Blowing up in anger can seriously damage a relationship. If a man thinks he can’t control his anger, he should imagine being angry at someone, the telephone rings and it’s his boss. Would he calm down? Of course, or he’d lose his job. Not getting angry doesn’t mean he accepts bad treatment; he calmly sets limits on the treatment he accepts from others.
Lesson #5: Be manly
Being manly is not being macho. Manliness is the positive qualities of decisiveness, strength in one’s convictions, confidence, self-reliance, high moral qualities, self discipline, honesty and integrity. A man who is manly has courage to be able to deal with difficulty, pain or danger without backing away despite his fear…
Tags: Love, Manhood, Valentine's Day
But the other side of that coin is that women have to also stop confusing themselves, and decide what is important, also. Too many women have left men who are as you describe in the above article for some “bad boy”, who treats her like crap, and she won’t leave. We need to think clearly about this all around.
Leadership ? I prefer partnership.
My pet peeve is the tweenie-bopper hooker look that is so popular these days. WTF are parents thinking? 14 year old girls don’t have the money to go into a sex shop and buy an outfit. Momma and daddy are involved in there somewhere. Do they really think that having their daughter looking like s stripper in public is a good idea?
Heh™. The top 100 conservative blogs. There are names on there to really piss Charles off. That is a good thing
Iron Fist wrote:
You’d be surprised at the amount of money being showered on kiddies these days; I know I am.
When I was in high school, back in the late Jurassic, everyone walked to school or took the bus, save a handful of nerds like myself who braved the public derision and rode bicycles. Students were not allowed to drive to school, even if they were among the lucky few who owned (or, more likely, merely had access to) an automobile.
My old high school recently built a parking lot to accommodate the students’ cars, because they were cluttering up all the side streets for blocks around. The community the high school serves is the same size it always was; buses still run; legs, we are told, still work. But the rules—and the amount of money given to the kiddies—have changed.
I heard a talk show guy yesterday say that our society has become overly casual and immature. This applies to men and women in relationships obviously, but his point was – it might be impossible to elect a statesman like Regan ever again because of what we have become as a society and explains why obama was elected.
I see these as traditional values or conservative values which are the bane of our existence. If only these and the people who hold them could be cast off, all our problems are solved.
Liberal illogic off….
If you want to watch a good show tonight watch Undercover Boss – last weeks was really good.
Have a good evening all.
@ Iron Fist:
Iron, part of the problem is that many girls who are 13 or 14 are already very physically mature IYKWIM. My daughter is very slim and tall. The clothes she wears look very different on her than her shorter, heavier and curvier friends. I’m not making excuses, just mentioning something I have noticed.
My biggest gripe with the old man is how the hey can we bring the snoring down to a manageable level?
@ Iron Fist:
Atlas is 37? Yeah, that’s going to tweek some little green melons.
Iron Fist wrote:
yep, 1/2 of those ARE my favorites list and I link to 1/2 of those that are left over
@ snowcrash:
I think the reason girls are “budding” at such a young age is all the
hormones they pump into chickens to make their breasts bigger.
/wacko theory sorta off
Iron Fist wrote:
Seems like the Alexa stats came up in either The Village or during one of the interviews King Liz granted after he took a dump during the purge. He dismissed Alexa as being inaccurate and irrelevant. Surprise.
@ rain of lead:
My girlfriend says the same thing only about milk and cows getting hormones and antibiotics. I think it is a combination of genetics and a higher ratio of body fat that supports estrogen proguction at a younger age. But I really don’t know either.
Zero needs to look at that list more than anyone I can think of.
Nice to be lectured to on Valentines Day.
@ snowcrash:
yeah, as the dad of a pretty young girl, this will be as issue for me
in 5-6 years
ok though, I gotta shotgun
snowcrash wrote:
Don’t forget the difference between an enzyme and a hormone.
@ rain of lead:
@ snowcrash:
I think your both right. My 11 year old daughter is about a 32b.
@ Bunk X:
Sand in the KY?
OT…this woman was either lucky or the investigations into her were superficial:
Here
Iron Fist wrote:
I thought Kentucky was known for its bluegrass.
chickadee wrote:
The How to Be a Man List.
And the top 100 Conservative Blog List too, why not.
snowcrash wrote:
Don’t forget the difference between an enzyme and a hormone.Iron Fist wrote:
You can’t hear an enzyme…
@ maxhdrm:
It is not easy. You have to be fairly sensitive and not make them feel self conscious, but you don’t want them attracting unwanted attention either.
buzzsawmonkey wrote:
And bourbon.
Men should be manly , but not crazy.
Who would lay these Valentine lyrics on your wife?
@ RIX:
someone who does not want to get any
This is the best Valentine I could get this years. Being as objectively fair as I can, I must admit that my EH fell very short of meeting these descriptions. I think he came to resent my taking care of things, but I had to because he wouldn’t.
OK, enough about that…
Speaking of manning up, looks like Dr. Phil Jones is attempting to as he now claims there was no global warming since “at least” 1995. Adding to that he now says there were other, warmer eras that were not man made.
Now all we need is Al Gore to come out of hiding and repay the billions he and his minions have stolen from the productivity of the world economy. Oh yeah – a certain Husky Blogger ™ ought to man up and admit his personal duping….
UK Mail rag article
King Liz announce that he’s been interviewed again:
Guess what else appears on that blog? NEONAZIS!
http://www.dangerousminds.net/index.php/site/comments/chatroulette_created_by_17-year-old_high_school_student_in_moscow/
@ Bunk X:
That whole chatroulette phenomenon is crazy. I’m probably just too old.
Bunk X wrote:
GASP!! That makes Chuckles a Neo-Nazi too! At least it would if he applied his own logic to this situation….
@ snowcrash:
Not picking on you, Snowcrash, you just hit a button at a bad time.
People use too blasted many acronyms! Say it in English, people; don’t make us guess what you mean because you’re too lazy to type it out!
No, I did not know what you meant, until I puzzled it out from context. My time is as valuable to me as yours is to you; don’t force me to waste it guessing at what you want to say!
@ RIX:
Oh, un-Mata Hari,
How I wish you do me for dree,
But with fruit and water,
You’re young enough to be my daughter,
So I guess I’ll have to come up with the fee..
@ Empire1:
Oops. Sorry!
I’ve copied this list, and I’m giving one to each of my boys. Thanks for posting this.
Good night, y’all!
@ Empire1:
Be glad you don’t work in the computer industry. Everything is an acronym. If someone tells you to RAID the scuzzies, well, it doesn’t mean what you think
Exactly, the quality of life would suffer, really suffer.
None of it rings true.
Iron Fist wrote:
Wouldn’t be the first time I was embarrassed.//
@ Crashnburn01:
Yup, The Jazz Artist associates with Nazi.
@ Crashnburn01:
Here’s the orig. BBC interview
Big time hedging.
@ Poteen:
The NAACP or some similar group got their panties is a twist about the master-slave relationship between IED drives. The ignorant leading the blind…
@ Crashnburn01:
That be one serious kook.
Well that didn’t work.
Iron Fist wrote:
They’re running out of gripes.
@ Crashnburn01:
The Chuckles has already fisked that. Or something like that.
Iron Fist wrote:
They also got the DoD to replace master and slave with client and server in all of their documentation. One small problem. Master-slave isn’t the same thing as client-server.
@ Rodan:
Do you know what’s up with the youtube embedding? It doesn’t work today.
@ snork:
No, considerably different. Master-slave is the right designation. Like I said, the ignorant leading the blind. I figure if race relations are to the point that that is the kind of thing they are worried about, then things are good enough that it is time they go away.
@ song_and_dance_man:
hey s&d man!
where you been?
was thinking about you today
Chuck has a thread now bashing the CRU hacker,not the malfeasance of the CRU. Here is Walters respoce to a CJ synchophant,
@ Speranza:
Speranza,
You are a man, I need to read this site a little bit more before I comment.
@ Iron Fist:
Funny, thing is when I started to work on computer hardware and I ran across that designation it didn’t mean a damn thing to me except which hard drive was the main one. PC is killing a lot of language.
@ RIX:
hahahahah
@ snork:
It is for ACORN
There’s evidence. Hmmm. But then:
@ snowcrash:
As I said, not picking on you — it just hit me at a bad time, since I keep running into more and more of the cursed things.
Poteen wrote:
Previous comment referred to Poteen’s link.
@ RIX:
What the groovy blogger is strongly hinting, without coming out and saying, is that it’s a conspiracy!!! It’s Big Oil Incorporated, operating out of their oily climate hacking headquarters in Big Oil, NJ.
rain of lead wrote:
Go go Walter!
Since this appears to be an open thread- if any of you would like to help- the new band that we just formed is looking for a name. Do you like any of these or might you have another? We are doing classic rock covers from the 60′s and 70′s.
The Banned
Chronic
No Gnomes
Poison Thorn
Caesars Bane
Sold Out
LOL
Coldcock
Chunky Bone
The Quarks
The Justin Case Band (stole that from our justin case)
The Retreads
Circle of Squares
Captain Obvious
Leviathan
Rodan Rose (Rodan inspired this one)
Throbbing Biscuit
BYOB
The Shards
Gaga Din
Snatch (the name of my band in High School)
Fancy Rain
The EmotiCons
Dr. Gerbil ( I know… ewwww)
Classic 101
The Clue Bats
Armagedditon
Crystal Mess
Hooch
Marvel
ROX
@ rain of lead:
Been working on music. I just knocked out the next three songs for practice tomorrow.
Iron Fist wrote:
You mean I’m not supposed to go in and kill them? Spoilsport!
@ song_and_dance_man:
cool, glad you have time to post
I kinda like crystal mess
@ rain of lead:
I’m partial to Rodan Rose. It has a triple meaning. A monstrous flower, a monster that has risen and this blog that is taking off via our Rodan.
@ RIX:
Walter in going to make a post that is going to get deleted within one day.
If Walter had any data that damages AGW, he would not be voluntarilly be doing it at LGF.
This is just another scheme to maintain traffic flowing on a money making site.
@ snork:
@ song_and_dance_man:
How about “Rockin Retro Mofos?” Chicks will love it.
RIX wrote:
just a little AGW update
Jones admitted this weekend that there has been no significant global warming in the last 15 years.
But, that didn’t stop these fraudsters from bilking the EU and US for £800,000 ($1,253,624.84) annually for the last 20 years.
who the hell can we sue to get that money back?
that’s over 25 million dollars by the way
@ RIX:
Love it, and will submit it as The Rocking Mofos.
@ song_and_dance_man:
Lettuce Sin
Love is a concept by which they measure their sales.
I’ll say it again,
Love is a concept by which they measure their sales.
Ever wonder what would happen if one of those high-profile, uber-public proposals went awry?
D’oh!
@ Empire1:
No problem
try again
http://hotair.com/archives/2010/02/14/video-worst-valentines-day-move-ever/
@ rain of lead:
It’s always about the money. That’s the unrealpolitik way in any manufactured crisis.
@ song_and_dance_man:
Rufus and the Sand Bats
Vinyl Benders
The Effen A’s
@ Iron Fist:
Is it okay if we go to these other blogs? I really like being here at blogmocracy and would hate to have my account blocked. /
@ rain of lead:
Chucky sez ur a liar.
@ Bunk X:
Oh yeah. Vinyl Benders is very, very good. Thanks for that.
@ mjazz:
oh snap, that was harsh
and cold
and funny
snork wrote:
s’ok, I been called worse things by better people
@ Bunk X:
Wait until you hear all of the support that Walter gets./
If the insane Foster can call me insane then being called a liar by him is a step down. Consider it a foul ball off the bat.
Yeah Baby!
RIX wrote:
yeah, those crickets can be pretty damn loud
@ Rodan:
The muslims want to rid the world of Jews; the nazis wanted to rid the world of Jews. Chunkles likes muslims, need I say more?
Deafening.
This is Walters chance to be the man in the arena & a hero.
Screw Charles Walter, you have the truth.
Besides CJ is a girlie man.
This is the most bizarre comment I’ve ever read from King Liz:
Good God! He’s promoting the concept of U.S. subservience!
No surprise, he is an insipid jerk!
@ PaladinPhil:
Certain machine parts are sometimes designated slave also.
@ mjazz:
Plus don’t forget these LGF Comments.
I simply don’t understand this obsession the far right has with Israel. It’s almost as if the United States has to subordinate its interests to those of Israel’s, at least in instances where there is a disagreement.
What I never got about Israel is if we were trying to make up for the horrors of the holocaust, why we didn’t just give them a part of Germany…
now this is something
any of you smart legal types seen this?
Tea Party activists might be smarter than some would like to think. And depending upon the outcome of a court case later this month, they might also play a role in setting legal precedent
When New Jersey state election officials denied their submission to initiate a recall effort against U.S. Senator Robert Menendez, calling it unconstitutional, a grass-roots recall committee’s constitutional instincts kicked into full gear. Attorneys for the committee, themselves Tea Party activists, filed to appeal the agency decision and began writing their supporting brief.
Meanwhile, seemingly everyone was now weighing in as a legal expert. Some insist the decision is simple: NJ has no constitutional authority to recall a US Senator; despite what its state constitution says, that authority is reserved for the federal government alone. For weeks now, legal scholars, political pundits and the media have been chattering online about the case, now before the Appellate Division in the Superior Court of New Jersey, some treating it more like a sideshow and an outlet to take pot shots at Tea Partiers than a legitimate court proceeding with real constitutional significance
@ RIX:
Walter has set up the site to take a hit on this subject.
Threre are a lot of posters on the fringe that are taking pot shots, deliberate insults at the site and not getting banned.
The bleeding has taken its toll, it is no longer a Ban all that disagree, just PLEASE do not say anything negative against my protected posters, PLEASE!
@ Bunk X:
I don’t know man, maybe he has a point. Look at how well the UN runs things. /
@ song_and_dance_man:
I like The Shards
It does look like it. Chuck has poweer such as it is , but Walter is lots smarter.
He may be playing CJ, I hope so.
@ RIX:
There are very few left at 1.0 that are smarter than Foster. Walter appears to be one of the last few.
Ya know the Marines are fighting door to door tonight.
They are up against IEDs & fanatic Islamists.
They are not fighting to cede our sovereignty to anyone.
Chuck could not understand men of honor.
Bunk X wrote:
He is aligning with Zero hoping to get noticed by the uberlibs.
Isn’t it insane, he is willing to “compromise national sovereignty” for a hoax.
cluck = zero=cluck
@ chickadee:
Me too. I like many of the names, but I really like Bunk X’s input. The Vinyl Benders. Back in the day we learned songs from the vinyl that bands produced their recordings on and the name is a great fit for a classic rock cover band.
<b
My friend , they are mostly kids over there, college students.
Then you throw in nuts like Ludwig & suck ups like Hoops *wink*
The place is a mess imo.
@ song_and_dance_man:
I was in a band that Seriously considered the name “The Stiff Richards”. It is funny on a lot of levels
Here’s a free clue for the clueless one known as Mad King Charles:
Man-made Global Warming is the greatest hoax to be played on the feeble-minded public since the Führer promised his Folks a Thousand Year Reich.
@ song_and_dance_man:
We used to fix skips by putting your finger on the arm to keep the needle in the groove when the skip approached.
song_and_dance_man wrote:
I like that too. You have some great choices. Have fun.
It sounds like you are really enjoying yourself.
Bunk X wrote:
Of course. Foster thinks that bowing to other heads of state is no problemo, since our POTUS is not really doing what the pics show him really doing. And Foster, with his actions of late, is doing the same thing. Bowing to the Left. We all saw what that has done for him with his touted, regaled and anticipated NYT rag article that he somehow thought would bring him into the lefty fold.
What a schlemiel!
@ Da_Beerfreak:
there are none so blind as he who WILL NOT SEE!
“If you believe nothing, you’ll fall for anything.”
@ mjazz:
And as you most likely know, the way to learn riffs from past masters was to put the record player on 16 to learn them one octave lower and at half the speed. I learned the Page riffs -and many others- from this forgotten technique.
Iron Fist
The Stiff Richards is a really good name. I’m adding it to the list. We have to come up with a name this week because we got our first gig coming up next Sunday. Fun fun fun.
Good night everybody.
Chunk could never win on a level playing field which is why Walter has to fight with one hand tied behind his back and can’t link to anything Chunk deems ‘tainted’. I’m surprised that was the only condition because Walter could prevail and I can’t imagine Chunk going into something where the outcome wasn’t assured to be in his favor. Chunk will, of course, declare himself the winner no matter what happens and just ban Walter and his memory for all eternity.
AGW is Mad King Charles’s Golden calf.
Da_Beerfreak wrote:
Close, but more like the the rock that must be spoken to instead of hit out of anger and frustration.
song_and_dance_man wrote:
Everything has its inspiration.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkbfEK_owGk
@ RIX:
Walter has been asking for permission to post his proof that the data was flawed due to the programming that led to the findings for months.
Not necesarilly to prove that AGW is not happenning, but enough to show that the data is flawed and manipulated.
It was granted,
LGF is going to take credit for Walters’ work.
Walter, likes the discussions afforded at Lgf, two or three people banging our customs and the parties involved.
A couple of “on the fringe” posters somehow hanging on like him for the sake of just being allowed to post.
Well Walter apparently has not had the experience to deal with multiple Religions, parties, and genders coming full bore at you, fully capable people, disagreeing with you, all in one thread.
None agreeing to pile on, beforehand. None using the foul language prevalent on LGF now.
Walter would do well to post his findings here, his work is likely to be ridiculed otherwise.
@ snork:
I thought they should get it right and call it chairman and comrades.
Here is the proof to my last post.
This individual in effect telling LGF how the ball bounces.
Influencing what it considers an inferior, maleable person to keep on supporting the meme.
The short rundown on tomorrow is that Walter has claimed there are problems with the code and will be posting some 23K words about that.
His initial claim was that this would show errors in the results, and CJ has called him on that.
Walter has been walking that claim back.
Expect a tremendous treatise on coding errors, to be rebutted very briefly with “Where are the errors in the results? Where are the errors in the conclusions?”
This is the projected synopsis of the thread to come; there will be many, many sideline objections and arguments made on both sides of the debate, but keep your eye on the ball.
If Walter posts any essay on LGF, one that took him all weekend long, only to be ridiculed, he is in fact a fool.
@ PENDAJO:
Walter’s got too much invested over there, but I’m surprised he’s growing a spine. Not too long ago he would have been banned just for contradicting King Liz, but even Walter has some fans. The Sword of Damocles…
@ PENDAJO:
pendEjo
chickadee wrote:
And there you go. That is what stupids on the left are pretty careful not to admit to.
@ Bunk X:
Walter is not only growing a spine, no,no.
Walter challenged the site and it backed down.
It takes a lot of patience to not get banned outright, to get LGF to back down and change the rules that Walter pinned it to accept is genious.
PENDAJO wrote:
Yep. He challenged King Liz on the ever-changing rules and trapped chuck in his own game. Heh.
song_and_dance_man wrote:
How about Ophelia Payne???