A perfect life lesson for any kid that is disrespectful of his/her elders. The video explains everything.
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Facebook Parenting
by savage ( 43 Comments › )Filed under Open thread at February 11th, 2012 - 4:00 pm
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We're not easily offended and don't want people to think they have to walk on eggshells around here (like at another place that shall remain nameless) but of course, there is a limit to everything.
Play nice!
The REAL lesson here is to not post ANYTHING on accessible internet places that you would not also be willing to send directly to your parents, boss, etc.
Mike C. wrote:
you can add homeland security to that list…
Now is SCARY
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/feb/10/interpol-journalist-arrested-muhammad-tweet
That girl has no clue how lucky she is to have a dad like that.
I just hope he hasnt taught her how to shoot yet
That was my husband’s wide-eyed response after we finished watching it yesterday
I’m skeptical here. Beyond being just a little overkill, as in why not just confiscate the laptop, rather than wasting perfectly fine soft tipped hollow point bullets on it, the whole rant had a staged for your pleasure feel to it. As a parent who was treated in similar fashion by a young teenage daughter who felt a little bigger in her britches than perhaps she should have, I handled the thing with her in private. Dad teaching his daughter a lesson about taking dirty laundry to the public internet by taking his dirty laundry to the internet is not really all that likely to teach a desired lesson. On the other hand, dad slipping an invoice under her door at home for meals eaten, clothing worn, doctor visits, nights lodging at his home, etc., and then subtracting a pittance for any chores actually accomplished would send a strong signal indeed. Physical violence works well also.
I got off Facebook a couple of years ago. I only friended friends and relatives and the Blogmocracy. Whenever I actually used it for communicating back and forth, I wouldn’t get replies. I would go there to play various games. I read an article about how to take down your Facebook page and I followed the steps.
Flyovercountry wrote:
That’s the way I see it. Maybe the teenage daughter got her Facebook obsession from her old man. He’s obviously looking for his few seconds of fame.
Flyovercountry wrote:
When I offended privately, I was disciplined privately.
When I offended publicly, I was disciplined publicly
I thought the point he made that she disrespected HERSELF was dead on. A little humiliation on that score is well placed.
I seem to remember reading that the father works in IT. He should have simply loaded her computer with a nasty virus to make it run slower and slower, and eventually crash, meanwhile sending embarrassing false postings to facebook. Let her be hoist by her own petard.
Then when she comes to him to get her laptop fixed, “Oh you got that damn Facebook Virus, did you? You should know better than to waste time there. Well, do the dishes and laundry each night for 2 weeks, and I’ll se what I can do.”
The guy should have donated his daughter’s laptop to FPS Russia, who would have had some fun!
I was kinda hoping he’d turn the laptop over – I wanted to see what the hollow points (they rock!) did to the underside of the laptop.
huckfunn wrote:
I don’t think so. He is sending this message to her friends on facebook. She had done it once before…was warned and did it again.
Sorry I think he is dead on here. Teenagers now days have it soooooo easy.
Most parents have no clue as to what they are up to. I didn’t post it on facebook but warned my son if EVER, EVEN ONCE a cop came to my door for something he did wrong…no matter how little the infraction MITITARY SCHOOL!!!!! Well that day came for underage possession of cigarettes….and off to military school he went.
/he is good man today. A son any parent would be proud of, hard working, God loving, family man. Sometimes with teenagers you have to get the message through.
Carolina Girl wrote:
Word. Show what the real damage to the laptop was. Would have been a bit more bringing the message home.
Lily wrote:
The sentiment is dead on. I had the same argument with my teen age son about 15 years ago and that argument left him with bumps, bruises and a split lip. However, I didn’t share the actual incident with the world via Youtube. It was between him and me. I believe in old-fashioned discipline; spare the rod, spoil the child, etc… I am totally at odds with today’s celebrity-seeking culture of reality TV, and the Youtube-Facebook moment of fame, which is what the young girl was obviously seeking. The old man should have shown her the error of her ways (shooting her computer to pieces) in a private setting.
@ Lily:
Football Savant Offspring has several of my “cooler” comrades as friends on his Facebook account. He ever pulled something like this and the emails would be hitting my account in five minutes.
And he’d find his belongings in a designer Hefty bag on the porch before the night was over.
Apparently Romney won Maine caucus
@ Carolina Girl:
The message is clear do not bitch about parents on facebook period.
I didn’t have that problem with my two sons….it was myspace back then. Probably because they would know I would find out. If they had a compliant about me they knew to settle it with me in person not cyber space.
Or damn….mama would stop all payments on cell phones, computers, and whatever else I was paying for. Possibly the electricity would be cut off from thier room…but not the whole house too.
Carolina Girl wrote:
My kid would find HIMSELF in a bag on the front porch
heh
@ huckfunn:
I think he did it as a message to her friends.
/now days that is about the only way to get the message out.
Looks like the ‘mama’s’ here are not as sympathic as the males.
IF MAMA AIN’T HAPPY NOBODY’S HAPPY!!!!
Lily wrote:
Apparently this girl didn’t get the msg. She’d done this once before, been grounded for 3 mos (no computer apparently) and did it AGAIN on what she thought was a private space. Her dad’s in IT fer cryin out loud.
Not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
eaglesoars wrote:
If you had posted that on facebook you would be in handcuffs right about now…
Lily wrote:
And their parents, he said
Lily wrote:
I noticed that too. Then I wondered, well yeah, but it was her DAD that did this. Ah. He mentioned mother AND stepmother. So she’s not living with mom. Who obviously asked her her dad to load a bullet for her.
brookly red wrote:
Nope. This is Virginny
@ eaglesoars:
No kidding….like I said upthread….he warned her before and she did it again. I have no sympathy. This was more of a message to her friends.
/oh the humanity!!!!!!
eaglesoars wrote:
well now she is a “facebook martyr” …
eaglesoars wrote:
Lily wrote:
Can you imagine what her next day at school must have been like?
oh, man………..
@ eaglesoars:
Mom was probably behind it too. Kid’s now days do not realize that the family structure is not a democracy …. It’s a damn monarchy….and the Queen has a lot of power.
eaglesoars wrote:
No kidding….so sad, too bad. Learn some damn respect for your parents they aren’t as stupid as teenagers think!!!!
Lily wrote:
” ‘Fair’ is NOT my job, besides it’s a 4 letter word. Now git”
They had it down. I’d hear the word FAIR and just say “yeah, now git. whatever’ and sulk off
HA. I remember I couldn’t WAIT to grow up.
Screwed again……………
I just remembered I had a facebook account (I started it to keep in contact with a friend that was deployed in Iraq) so I just deleted it. Phuc Them.
brookly red wrote:
I’ve never done facebook, twitter, etc. I seem to have boundary issues. But then I’m a geriatric.
sheesh, the wind sounds like it’s about to take out(new) roof off.
eaglesoars wrote:
I don’t see a purpose in it/for it other than to spill your guts to the world… why the phuc would anyone want a facebook account?
@ eaglesoars:
I couldn’t wait to get out of the house either….as I grew up I understood my parents better.
/I was punished once till I was 40….after 3 days of imprisionment in my room….dad let me off with time served. He walked in my room and I had painted awesome murals on my door and closet doors…I was into art….he found them well done…but I think he thought I might spread out to the entire house!
@ brookly red:
One reason is to keep in contact with family that is spread out all over the country….the thing is never post anything private….maybe a hello or a youtube video song.
Lily wrote:
email, phone, letters. I stay private.
@ eaglesoars:
True. I have a facebook page but am rarely on it.I don’t have very personal stuff on there and keep it private.
I don’t twitter, text, etc.
Lily wrote:
It’s always the “artists” that make trouble…
@ Lily:
I have my families addys…
Off to read my book – nite all
eaglesoars wrote:
*Rant on*
If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy? Nobody in their right mind loves a tyrant, and no exceptions are made for women tyrants. The other people in my life (husband, stepdaughter, co-workers, friends, Blogmocracy members) are under NO obligation to make me happy. Matter of fact, nobody owes me a damned thing. This is a tough world and when things go wrong, the ONLY honorable thing to do is to roll with the punches and keep plugging along. In the real world, people get angry with each other, often with ample justification. If somebody complains about me they may have a point and I have no right to slap them down for being “disrespectful” just because they spoke up.
I think the kid must have other reasons to hate both her parents, other than being tired of the chores. It probably has to do with them both having a snotty and contemptuous attitude toward her. I know the type of parent – do a certain amount of stuff for the kid, but spend the whole time telling the kid how much easier the kid has it than you do, how ugly and awkward and dumb the kid is, how poorly the kid does the chores, how stupid the kid’s friends and interests are, how much better you did in school that the kid does (even if this is untrue), and so on and so forth. It’s that contemptuous tone of voice…it cuts like a knife, and it cancels out one hundred percent of the good that you might do (or claim to do) for the kid in the material sense.
Respect is given where respect is due. Simply being older is not reason enough – otherwise I would be compelled to respect George Soros (who is even older than me) – which I vehemently reject.
My stepdaughter doesn’t treat any of us with disrespect, because we always treated her with respect. She did do a lot of chores for us, especially when we were ill, and we never had this type of confrontation.
Besides that, the father could have taken the laptop away, cleared the hard drive, and sold it to somebody else. Shooting anything that still has some value is wasteful and immature.
Okay, so it was stupid of her to put that on Facebook. But if you spend time snooping into other people’s communications, you might find something that hurts your pride. That’s why I do not do such snooping. If the father had not made that stupid video and posted it, then only a tiny handful of people would have known he had a daughter who was annoyed with him. How petty can anybody be?
*Rant off*
A Hilarious parody of this videos “Facebook Parenting for the DATING teen”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6BwvLUrXT4